Toastmasters International -Surviving Awkward Holiday Party Talk

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If the thought of mingling at a party with people you barely know and trying to make conversations fills you with dread, you’re not alone. Whether you’re sipping a drink at a friend’s home, sharing a holiday dinner with family, or attending an office party, Toastmasters experts offer six tips to help you have a more successful experience.

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Look for a friendly face. When arriving at the event or when you’re feeling out of place, seek out the people you know and enjoy spending time with. Try to navigate toward people who are well-known and liked—they are often good communicators and will help you feel at ease.
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Watch your body language. Be sure to face the individual who is speaking, make eye contact with them, and smile and nod to let them know you’re paying attention and understanding what they are saying. And if nothing else, refrain from texting or checking your phone and give people your full attention.
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Create a conversation résumé. Before you head to the party, think of a few things you’ve done recently that could help you jump into conversations easily, such as an exciting trip you took, an interesting book you read, or a new movie you watched. Compile a mental list of your interests and hobbies and review current events in the news and sports.
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Share your stories. Tell a humorous and/or happy holiday memory or story. People enjoy sharing their own holiday experiences, so this topic can help jump-start conversations.
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Set your expectations. Don’t expect to have in-depth conversations at holiday gatherings; prepare for others to join in and even interrupt at times. Conversations will typically be brief, so this isn’t the place to resolve any pressing business or personal matters.
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Know when and how to exit. Before leaving the event, navigate your way around and try to say a brief hello to the people you haven’t had the chance to converse with. Be sure to thank the hosts of the party. They likely put in a great deal of effort to make the event fun and enjoyable for everyone.